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Anonymous asked: I have a girl friend, each time she saw me with other ladies, she get upset. and i ask her out she insisted, what do i do

Just let her know that she means the world to you. 

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cowcajunprincess:

For those of you that don’t know, this is just a small glimpse into the life of a fibromyalgia fighter. It is a constant battle with your body and with the pain. It’s not just as simple as “getting over it” and “forgetting about the pain”. Your body can hurt so bad that just someone touching you can put you to your knees in horrible pain. You can simply hit your elbow and be in pain from it for a week. There is no relief for the pain. And there is no cure. You can’t just “sleep it off” or take medicine to relieve it because most of the time the medicine won’t work. There is no cure and no relief. It’s a daily struggle with the pain that if your lucky you can get a brake from it. I know this because I am a fibromyalgia fighter, but I REFUSE to let it take over my life. I will continue to push on and I will accomplish anything and everything I dream to do no matter the amount if pain I am in. I am I fibromyalgia fighter and I will keep going. #fibromyalgia #fibrosucks #fibrofighter #pushingon #findacure #findarelief

cowcajunprincess:

For those of you that don’t know, this is just a small glimpse into the life of a fibromyalgia fighter. It is a constant battle with your body and with the pain. It’s not just as simple as “getting over it” and “forgetting about the pain”. Your body can hurt so bad that just someone touching you can put you to your knees in horrible pain. You can simply hit your elbow and be in pain from it for a week. There is no relief for the pain. And there is no cure. You can’t just “sleep it off” or take medicine to relieve it because most of the time the medicine won’t work. There is no cure and no relief. It’s a daily struggle with the pain that if your lucky you can get a brake from it. I know this because I am a fibromyalgia fighter, but I REFUSE to let it take over my life. I will continue to push on and I will accomplish anything and everything I dream to do no matter the amount if pain I am in. I am I fibromyalgia fighter and I will keep going. #fibromyalgia #fibrosucks #fibrofighter #pushingon #findacure #findarelief

(Source: keepyourheartstrong4673, via fibromyalgiasucks)

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Anonymous asked: I am confused! How will I know if he's just having a fling with me?

If he cares for you on an emotional level, it’s not just a fling. Don’t be afraid to ask!

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Anonymous asked: I suppose you have had your B12 checked? I know the feeling of always being tired.... often to tired to get out of bed. And then the struggle between the brain that wants to do things and the body calling you back. I accepted the fact that I had to live with a lack of energy for the rest of my life. I suffer from Addison Biermer also called B12 dis-sufficiency. But small miracle happened. I started using high quality food supplements and since then i feel much better. FB Margot Galiart Mirtos

I don’t know off the top of my head, but I’m sure that was something they would have tested for. But thank you for the information. :-)

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Anonymous asked: They don't know what I have... Some say the start of MS. I hurt all the time and they make me feel like I am crazy. No one seems to understand. I am so sad.

I’m so sorry to hear that. The diagnosis phase can be very depressing and very frustrating. I remember nights where I would keep myself up planning for what I would have to do if I was diagnosed with this, or that. 

It can be very difficult to find people who understand. Just try talking with people about. Explain your situation to them if you haven’t already. I guarantee that there will be at least one person out there who understands. 

And trust me, you’re definitely not crazy. Just because it’s still an unknown doesn’t make it any less real. An answer will come. It may take some time, but it will come. I’m sure of it. 

If you need anyone to talk to, I’m always here. :-)

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randomactsofchaos asked: I was just thinking that I needed to start following more people with Fibromyalgia, because I haven't been hearing much from those I already follow. That "Letter to the Healthy World" post was brilliant timing - I'll be forwarding it to a few relatives later today. So glad to see you back on my dash!

Thank you so much. I was thinking the same thing, but I was like, “Why don’t I just post more?” So hopefully, I’ll be able to keep it up. 

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A Letter to the Healthy World from the Land of Chronic Pain and Fatigue

If you were born with healthy genes, you may know me but you don’t understand me. I was not as lucky as you. I inherited the predisposition to chronic pain, fatigue and forgetfulness. I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia (FMS) after months, years or even decades of mysterious physical and emotional problems. Because you didn’t know how sick I was, you called me lazy, a malingerer, or simply ridiculous. If you have the time to read on, I would like to help you understand how different I am from you.

WHAT YOU SHOULD KNOW ABOUT FIBROMYALGIA

1. FMS is not the newest fad disease. In fact, it isn’t a disease at all, and it isn’t even new. In 1815, a surgeon at the University of Edenburgh, William Balfour, described fibromyalgia. Over the years, it has been known as chronic rheumatism, myalgia and fibrositis. Unlike diseases, syndromes do not have a known cause, but they do have a specific set of signs and symptoms which, unfortunately for the patient, take place together. Rheumatoid arthritis and lupus are also syndromes.

2. The many physical and emotional problems associated with FMS are not psychological in origin. This is not an “all in your head” disorder. In 1987, the American Medical Association recognized FMS as a true physical illness and major cause of disability.

3. Syndromes strike life-long athletes as viciously as they do couch potatoes. They can be disabling and depressing, interfering with even the simplest activities of daily life.

WHAT YOU SHOULD KNOW ABOUT ME 

1. My pain - My pain is not your pain. It is not caused by inflammation. Taking your arthritis medication will not help me. I can not work my pain out or shake it off. It is not even a pain that stays put. Today it is in my shoulder, but tomorrow it may be in my foot or gone. My pain is believed to be caused by improper signals sent to the brain, possibly due to sleep disorders. It is not well understood, but it is real.

2. My fatigue - I am not merely tired. I am often in a severe state of exhaustion. I may want to participate in physical activities, but I can’t. Please do not take this personally. If you saw me shopping in the mall yesterday, but I can’t help you with yard work today, it isn’t because I don’t want to. I am, most likely, paying the price for stressing my muscles beyond their capability. 

3. My forgetfulness - Those of us who suffer from it call it fibrofog. I may not remember your name, but I do remember you. I may not remember what I promised to do for you, even though you told me just seconds ago. My problem has nothing to do with my age but may be related to sleep deprivation. I do not have a selective memory. On some days, I just don’t have any short-term memory at all.

4. My clumsiness - If I step on your toes or run into you five times in a crowd, I am not purposely targeting you. I do not have the muscle control for that. If you are behind me on the stairs, please be patient. These days, I take life and stairwells one step at a time.

5. My sensitivities - I just can’t stand it! “It” could be any number of things: bright sunlight, loud or high-pitched noises, odors. FMS has been called the “aggravating everything disorder.” So don’t make me open the drapes or listen to your child scream. I really can’t stand it.

6. My intolerance - I can’t stand heat, either. Or humidity. If I am a man, I sweat…profusely. If I am a lady, I perspire. Both are equally embarrassing, so please don’t feel compelled to point this shortcoming out to me. I know. And don’t be surprised if I shake uncontrollably when it’s cold. I don’t tolerate cold, either. My internal thermostat is broken, and nobody knows how to fix it.

7. My depression - Yes, there are days when I would rather stay in bed or in the house or die. I have lost count of how many of Dr. Kevorkian’s patients suffered from FMS as well as other related illnesses. Severe, unrelenting pain can cause depression. Your sincere concern and understanding can pull me back from the brink. Your snide remarks can tip me over the edge.

8. My stress - My body does not handle stress well. If I have to give up my job, work part time, or handle my responsibilities from home, I’m not lazy. Everyday stresses make my symptoms worse and can incapacitate me completely.

9. My weight - I may be fat or I may be skinny. Either way, it is not by choice. My body is not your body. My appestat is broken, and nobody can tell me how to fix it.

10. My need for therapy - If I get a massage every week, don’t envy me. My massage is not your massage. Consider how a massage would feel if that charley horse you had in your leg last week was all over your body. Massaging it out was very painful, but it had to be done. My body is knot-filled. If I can stand the pain, regular massage can help, at least temporarily.

11. My good days - If you see me smiling and functioning normally, don’t assume I am well. I suffer from a chronic pain and fatigue illness with no cure. I can have my good days or weeks or even months. In fact, the good days are what keep me going.

12. My uniqueness - Even those who suffer from FMS are not alike. That means I may not have all of the problems mentioned above. I do have pain above and below the waist and on both sides of my body which has lasted for a very long time. I may have migraines or hip pain or shoulder pain or knee pain, but I do not have exactly the same pain as anyone else.

I hope that this helps you understand me, but if you still doubt my pain, your local bookstore, library and the internet have many good books and articles on fibromyalgia.

Author’s note: This letter is based on communications with people throughout the world, males and females, who suffer from fibromyalgia. It does not represent any one of the over 10,000,000 people with FMS, but it can help the healthy person understand how devastating this illness can be. Please do not take these people and their pain lightly. You wouldn’t want to spend even a day in their shoes…or their bodies.

(via vanransandwich)

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Open Letter To Normals

These are the things that I would like you to understand about me before you judge me…


Please understand that being sick doesn’t mean I’m not still a human being.  I have to spend most of my day flat on my back in bed and I might not seem like great company, but I’m still me stuck inside this body.  I still worry about school and work and my family and friends, and most of the time I’d still like to hear you talk about yours too.

Please understand the difference between “happy” and “healthy.” When you’ve got the flu you probably feel miserable with it, but I’ve been sick for years. I can’t be miserable all the time, in fact I work hard at not being miserable. So if you’re talking to me and I sound happy, it means I’m happy. That’s all. I may be tired. I may be in pain. I may be sicker than ever.  Please, don’t say, “Oh, you’re sounding better!”  I am not sounding better, I am sounding happy. If you want to comment on that, you’re welcome.


Please understand that being able to stand up for five minutes, doesn’t necessarily mean that I can stand up for ten minutes, or an hour. It’s quite likely that doing that five minutes has exhausted my resources and I’ll need to recover - imagine an athlete after a race. They couldn’t repeat that feat right away either. With a lot of diseases you’re either paralyzed or you can move. With this one it gets more confusing.

Please repeat the above paragraph substituting, “sitting up”, ”walking”, “thinking”, “being sociable” and so on …. it applies to everything. That’s 
what a fatigue-based illness does to you.

Please understand that chronic illnesses are variable. It’s quite possible (for me, it’s common) that one day I am able to walk to the park and back, while the next day I’ll have trouble getting to the kitchen.  Please don’t attack me when I’m ill by saying, “But you did it before!”  If you want me to do something, ask if I can and I’ll tell you. In a similar vein, I may need to cancel an invitation at the last minute, if this happens please don’t take it personally.

Please understand that “getting out and doing things” does not make me feel better, and can often make me seriously worse. Fibromyalgia may cause secondary depression (wouldn’t you get depressed if you were stuck in bed for years on end!?) but it is not caused by depression. Telling me that I need some fresh air and exercise is not appreciated and not correct - if I could do it, I would.

Please understand that if I say I have to sit down / lie down / take these pills now, that I do have to do it right now - it can’t be put off or forgotten just because I’m doing something. Fibromyalgia does not forgive.

Please understand that I can’t spend all of my energy trying to get well.  With a short-term illness like the flu, you can afford to put life on hold for a week or two while you get well.  But part of having a chronic illness is coming to the realization that you have to spend some energy on having a life now. This doesn’t mean I’m not trying to get better. It doesn’t mean I’ve given up. It’s just how life is when you’re dealing with a chronic illness.

If you want to suggest a cure to me, please don’t. It’s not because I don’t appreciate the thought, and it’s not because I don’t want to get well. It’s because I have had almost every single one of my friends suggest one at one point or another. At first I tried them all, but then I realized that I was using up so much energy trying things that I was making myself sicker, not better. If there was something that cured, or even helped, all people with Fibro then we’d know about it. This is not a drug-company conspiracy, there is worldwide networking (both on and off the Internet) between people with Fibro, if something worked we would KNOW.

If after reading that, you still want to suggest a cure, then do it, preferably in writing, but don’t expect me to rush out and try it. If I haven’t had it suggested before, I’ll take what you said and discuss it with my doctor.

Please understand that getting better from an illness like this can be very slow. People with Fibro have so many systems in their bodies out of equilibrium, and functioning wrongly, that it may take a long time to sort everything out.

I depend on you - people who are not sick - for many things.

But most importantly, I need you to understand me.


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MY NAME IS FIBROMYALGIA by Terri Been

Hi….My Name is Fibromyalgia, and I’m an Invisible Chronic Illness.

I am now velcroed to you for life. Others around you can’t see me or hear me, but YOUR body feels me. I can attack you anywhere and anyhow I please. I can cause severe pain or, if I’m in a good mood, I can just cause you to ache all over. Remember when you and Energy ran around together and had fun? I took Energy from you, and gave you Exhaustion. Try to have fun now! I also took Good Sleep from you and, in its place, gave you Brain Fog. I can make you tremble internally or make you feel cold or hot when everyone else feels normal. Oh, yeah, I can make you feel anxious or depressed, too. If you have something planned, or are looking forward to a great day, I can take that away, too. You didn’t ask for me. I chose you for various reasons: That virus you had that you never recovered from, or that car accident, or maybe it was the years of abuse and trauma. Well, anyway, I’m here to stay!

I hear you’re going to see a doctor who can get rid of me. I’m rolling on the floor, laughing. Just try. You will have to go to many, many doctors until you find one who can help you effectively. You will be put on pain pills, sleeping pills, energy pills, told you are suffering from anxiety or depression, given a TENs unit, get massaged, told if you just sleep and exercise properly I will go away, told to think positively, poked, prodded, and MOST OF ALL, not taken as seriously as you feel when you cry to the doctor how debilitating life is every day.  Your family, friends and coworkers will all listen to you until they just get tired of hearing about how I make you feel, and that I’m a debilitating disease. Some of they will say things like “Oh, you are just having a bad day” or ”Well, remember, you can’t do the things you use to do 20 YEARS ago”, not hearing that you said 20 DAYS ago. Some will just start talking behind your back, while you slowly feel that you are losing your dignity trying to make them understand, especially when you are in the middle of a conversation with a “Normal” person, and can’t remember what you were going to say next!

In closing, (I was hoping that I kept this part a secret), but I guess you already found out…the ONLY place you will get any support and understanding in dealing with me is with Other People With Fibromyalgia.

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Anonymous asked: I was diagnosed with Fibromyalgia, CFS & Hashimoto's when I was 19 (I had it for about a year before that - it just took 7 doctors to actually diagnose me). I am now 23 and although there are still some days where I sadly remember that I will be suffering with this pain on a daily basis for the rest of my life, I look back at the past 4 years and remind myself that not all of those days were miserable, and that I can do it. It's nice to know I'm not alone! Your blog tends to comfort me - thanks!

Thank you so much for sending this. It brought a tear to my eye. I’m so glad to know that I’m able to help people. :-)

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Anonymous asked: Me and my bf have been separated, we keep in touch over the net, and both love each other more than anything. We would do anything to keep our relationship, but we’re not aloud to date. please relationship advice, and I will owe you forever! thx!

If your love is strong, then you will endure. I don’t know the reason for your separation, but if you’re both willing, then you should wait for each other. And you can wait until the right, opportune, moment when you will be able to be together.